Ask for Hope

By: Hope Willames

Let me start off by saying that I am 26 years old I am a financial advisor. I work for myself and make a average of $71,000 a year. I am single strong proud black woman. I didn’t have parents my little brother raised me. I own my own house and I am always traveling.

Now lets start this article off by saying your options and questions are welcome. Do you ever run across those men that are to good to be true? Every one knows them there in every race. You know the gorgeous tall dark and handsome type. That are sweet and considerate, but you just know something isn’t right. Well chances are that they aren’t as “good” as you think they are. Don’t get me wrong there are some men out there that are good and decent. But we all know that finding one is like finding the right out fit. It doesn’t happen often. A lot of women have given up on finding one all together. They much rather get a Brazilian bikini wax than go through all of the games. I have a friend she’s white and she’s dating a brother. He is one of those tall dark and handsome types plus he sings. Well this man of hers does not work but lives with and off her. And he is playing her, she cries every night, but she says she loves him to much to let him go. First off. Why the hell would you want someone like that anyways. Don’t ever let someone do that to you. If you suspect that something is going on you are more than likely right. But don’t be one of those typical females by cutting up his shit getting even or yelling at him. To get under his skin tell him that you don’t think that things are working that.. You don’t have the time for some of these aspects of the relationship. But don’t tell him nothing else ask if he needs help packing or just pack your stuff and go. Don’t try to make him jealous. Just don’t worry about it. Because if that’s the way thins are going then you don’t need it.. And shouldn’t want to put your self though it. You have to have self respect and self confidence. No one can break down your self esteem only you can. that’s why they call it self esteem. Think about it.

Now I don’t see what the big deal is with interracial couples. Why cant we just accept white girls going to be with black men and vice versa? You should stop worrying so much on them and a little bit on your self.. that’s the problem with women these days we worry so much about other peoples business and not enough on our own. I can understand if they are your friends and you want to help. But you only tell them one time you don’t tell them any more. When you do that you do run the chance of getting caught up by there spouse. But don’t involve and wrap your self up in there issues. Everyone has there own problems including you. Do what you can but don’t go out of your way. Because 99% of the time they wont do the same for you. So to recap take care of your self and don’t stress or let others run you affairs, and don’t run others affairs. We all have our own battles. But we will never learn if we let someone else solve our problems. It will be hard but you have to keep on pushing through. And eventually everything will be ok. I am not saying though don’t help your friends because they do need you. Just pick and choose your battles. don’t walk out on them when the rest of the world walks out. You want to be the one who walks in while they walk out. Be there for them and support them don’t enable them though. Last thing you want is a hysterical woman calling your phone at 2 am asking what do I do now. To wrap things up don’t take something you don’t deserve and don’t involve your self in every little problem someone else has.

Any questions or comments or if there is anything you want to talk about feel free to let me know.

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